Nanny v. Child

One of the most common grievances I hear from other nannies often comes from discipline and the battle of power. Although most parents would agree that they want their child to be well-behaved and respectful, not many are not so willing to accept that their child acts anything but that. A blunder a nanny has to overcome is how to discipline a child with the support of the parents. It can become a struggle to have a child's respect when a parent repetitively overrules your verdict. So what can you do?  Do you bend over to the child's every will or go against the parent?
The answer, neither. Obviously you can't let the child run amok and do as he or she pleases. There must be some level of respect given. Stand firm of your verdict even if it causes a commotion that brings a parent into the scene. If it becomes evident that the parent is always siding with the child then it becomes time to have a private conversation with the parent. Share your thoughts that it is very difficult to have respect if every decision is overridden. Although it is hard for a parent to watch their child in distress, sometimes it is necessary in order to have some discipline and consequence. If the parent denies or chooses to reject this idea, then continue to fight the system. It won't be fun and it definitely won't be easy, but it is needed.
I can't say that these are black and white answer situations, but stick to what you know is right and not with just is easy. Unfortunately, there will sometimes be times where you will have to swallow your pride and deal with awful situations. In those times you have a choice, be someone that can help add structure and be there for a child or resign and leave the family. Also, there will be moments in which you will be wrong. Sometimes bad judgement calls are made and it is okay for a parent to call you out on it. The most important thing to remember for you and the parent is the well-being of the child. Consider what will be best for the child, and then act upon it. If both parties do that then there is nothing to be worried about :)